Anal sex toys - you've probably heard about them. This is one of those topics that feels taboo until you realize everyone's actually into it, and the only weird thing is how little we really talk about it.
So, let's fix that. Whether you want to try something new
on your own, or maybe you and your partner want to spice things up - anal play
doesn't have to be intimidating. In fact, it can be super fun, incredibly safe,
and shockingly pleasurable. And lucky you… that's exactly what we're diving
into.
Here’s the deal: the fear around anal sex
toys comes from bad info and old-school thinking. When you use the right anal
toy and listen to your body, that fear starts to melt away. With a
beginner-friendly option, you’re not forcing anything but just exploring
something new.
Plus, there’s no rush. No pressure.
You’re in charge of the whole experience. That’s why anal sex toys are such a
great entry point: they give you total control while introducing your body to a
whole new sensation.
So you’re in a
relationship and thinking, “Hmm, maybe this could be... our next thing?” Smart
move. Trying anal play together isn’t just about physical sensation.
Let’s be honest -
lovemaking can feel slightly predictable after a while. Anal toys offer a new
kind of excitement. One that requires patience and honesty. When couples share
their desires openly, it strengthens their bond even more.
It’s not about being
“kinky” or checking boxes. It’s about giving yourselves permission to try something new, even if you laugh
through it or take things slow. That openness? It’s kinda sexy.
Okay, now for the juicy part. If you’re
wondering where to start, here are 5 types of anal toys that are
beginner-approved and pleasure-certified:
Simple, soft, and shaped just right.
Start with the smallest size available and make sure it has a flared base - aka
your safety anchor.
Sounds intense, but the key word here is control. You can ease in one bead at a
time, then slowly pull them out during climax for an extra kick.
Basically a textured glove for your
finger. It’s gentle, non-intimidating, and gives you a feel for the sensations
before trying anything insertable.
Just enough buzz to enhance the
experience, without overwhelming you. Perfect for solo nights or for spicing things up with a partner.
These are super comfy and designed to
stay put without shifting. Great for hands-free play while doing... whatever
else you’re into.
First time? Don’t sweat it. Here’s how to
ease into anal play without any drama:
If you're nervous, that’s fine. This is
about you, not anyone else’s
expectations. Chill, breathe, and remind yourself: curiosity is hot.
Think small, flexible, and made from
body-safe silicone. Avoid anything long, hard, or mechanical right off the bat.
There is no such thing as too much lube.
Go for water-based or silicone-based, and reapply as needed. Friction is the
enemy here.
Don’t rush to insert anything. Touch,
tease, massage the area first. Get your body used to the idea before diving in.
If it feels good, great. If it doesn’t?
Stop. Breathe. Try again later. This is a no-pressure zone.
After you’re done, wash your toy (and
yourself), then do something relaxing. A little aftercare goes a long way, even
if it’s just snacks and Netflix.
Here’s the truth: anal
sex toys are about discovering.
Trying. Testing the waters and realizing, “Oh - this actually feels amazing.”
Start small. Go slow.
And remember: it’s not about being edgy - it’s about owning your pleasure in a
new way. You get to define what that looks like. No rules, no pressure.